Toxic Relationships

Toxic relationships can arise in many different forms; spousal relationships, dating relationships, parent-child, friendships, even supervisor-employee relationships can be toxic.

When you find yourself in a toxic relationship you may begin to ask yourself if in fact you are the toxic person.  Or you may start to see patterns of past toxic relationships, and question why you continue to draw them into your life.

Our intensive program focuses on understanding how the toxic relationship and interpersonal conditioning developed, what can be done about it now and how the client can build self-esteem, a stronger identity and a sense of purpose.


Childhood Toxicity

Sometimes the “toxic-magnetism” is due to events or people from childhood. Often parental modeling plays a big role in how we deal with toxic people in our adult lives.

Many individuals even have toxic people as parents, and have to struggle with the pain of loving someone who causes them harm.


Are You in a Toxic Relationship?

A relationship doesn’t have to be dramatic to be toxic. Is someone always bringing you down? Chances are you’re in a toxic relationship. Here are 4 signs you’re in a toxic relationship.


  • The world revolves around them.  Toxic people don’t listen to the problem’s and life concerns of other people. This means even having a normal conversation is impossible, because they will manage to turn it into something about themselves. They don’t acknowledge other’s feelings.


  • They’re ALWAYS Right. People who are highly self-centered believe they are always correct. Even when you’re not in an argument, toxic people will find ways to subversively condescend to those around them.


  • You’re ALWAYS wrong. This ties into the point above but is distinct. People who are toxic make others feel ashamed for being themselves. They tend to directly or indirectly manipulate and judge, and you won’t pass their judgement unless you act like them or stroke their ego.


  • No Room to Grow. Toxic people want to control others; and view change as a threat to their control. In a healthy relationship growth and change are supported. In a toxic relationship any desire to grow is met with mockery and judgement.


If you or someone you know may be in a toxic relationship, call The Control Center now for a free consultation. Don’t allow yourself to be treated this way. Get some support from The Control Center to make healthy changes, it’s too difficult to do it alone.


TCC's Publications on Toxic Relationships:

Forbes: Lessons From The Petraeus Affair: 3 Reasons Why High-Powered People Cheat And Get Caught

Fox News: Just Married... And Divorced